OIL and WATER

Separates SO quickly...

Going through trials is an interesting thing. There’s something about it that separates your true friends from the people you THOUGHT were friends.

Divorce is the one trial that will separate these friends faster than ever. It’s like oil and water. Quicker than lightning you’re left wondering what happened.

I’ve heard from countless numbers of people how friendships were lost after a divorce. Sometimes friends feel like they need to choose sides. Sometimes they just don’t know what to say anymore.

We’ve all been in that position where tragedy has struck someone that we know. How many times have we awkwardly said hello in the store, asked how they were doing and then quickly moved on? It’s as if we’ll be struck by something terrible if we talk to them for too long.

Or there are the people who would just rather pretend like nothing has ever happened. If it’s not talked about then it’s not awkward, right? 

This is so important to remember!

Then there are the friends who silently judge, and quickly slip away.

Rarely do we find the kind of people who will ask what they are really thinking. Some might feel that asking questions is intrusive, but I welcome it like a breath of fresh air!

One thing I’ve learned through all of this is that we NEVER know what is happening in people’s lives. Everyone has burdens and trials they go though everyday that no one knows about. There is no way we can possibly judge a person for their actions or behaviors. Why would we want to? People around us don’t need judgment; they need love and support.

Are you the kind of friend that slips away during someone’s battles? Do you pretend like they aren’t happening or do you stand up and support them? How would you want someone to treat you in the same situation? Think about THAT the next time you discover the battles the people around you are fighting.